Adopting a dog in New York City requires more consideration than simply choosing a breed that catches your eye. The commitment resembles a marriage more than a casual relationship, according to dog owner and reporter Fern Watt.
“Do you, Human, promise to love, cherish, and feed Nacho so many snackies for as long as you both shall live?” Watt imagines shelter workers asking potential adopters, highlighting the seriousness of the commitment.
In a metropolis where living spaces are limited and public parks serve as shared backyards, dogs become more than pets—they’re roommates and social companions. While a husky’s distinctive eyes or a Doberman’s elegant silhouette might turn heads in SoHo, successful long-term relationships with dogs depend on compatibility rather than aesthetics.
Watt strongly advocates for adoption from shelters over purchasing when possible. “There are too many wonderful dogs dreaming of the day their special human—could it be you?!—bursts through the shelter doors, sweeps them into their arms, and drives them away in their noble car to a new life full of walks, snuggles, and adventure,” she writes.
For those committed to purchasing from breeders, Watt emphasizes thorough research to avoid supporting puppy mills. Legitimate breeders typically maintain waitlists, conduct home visits, and allow buyers to meet the puppy’s parents.
Expectations can lead to disappointment in both human and canine relationships. Watt shares her personal experience of adopting a dog she initially believed would heal her emotional wounds, only to discover her new companion had behavioral challenges that made even walking difficult.
“I wanted a dog I could travel with—take on planes, go on adventures. But I’d quickly adopted a dog I could hardly take on a walk. She’d bark and lunge at everyone,” Watt recalls of her dog Bette.
The solution came through professional training, where Watt learned that her own behavior contributed to her dog’s anxiety. The trainer explained that Bette didn’t view Watt as being in charge, leading to insecurity.
“He taught me how to present myself to Bette. No yelling! No panicking! Chest up, shoulders down! Hold the leash this way—with confidence. Be reliable. Be calm. Be someone she can respect!” Watt shares.
After a decade together, Watt describes her relationship with Bette as “one of my most intimate, intentional relationships.” Unlike human friendships, the commitment cannot be canceled with a text message. The responsibility remains constant, with Bette always ready for their Central Park walks.
Ultimately, Watt concludes that breed selection matters less than finding the right match—a companion with whom you can forge a genuine connection despite inevitable challenges like squirrel distractions and training setbacks.
